What does good sex feel like for gay guys
What draws gay men to slamming: the rush, pleasure or kinship?
Gay and bisexual men living in the Netherlands reported intense rush, less sexual inhibition, pleasure and kinship among the perceived benefits of slamming in a master thesis titled ‘Meth, Sex, Health and Pleasure’ from Utrecht University.
Slamming is the intravenous injection of crystal methamphetamine (also known as crystal meth, tina and ice). Similar to chemsex involving unlike substances (including GHB/GBL, mephedrone, MDMA and, to a lesser extent, cocaine and ketamine), slamming can take place before or during sexual activity to facilitate, prolong or augment the sexual experience.
In the 2017 The European MSM Internet Survey (EMIS), 15% of gay, bisexual person and other men who have sex with men from 50 European countries reported ever having chemsex and over 10% had done so in the past 12 months. Following these findings and increased trouble around chemsex in the region, the EU’s Drug Move 2021-2025 included LGBTI+ people for the first time. It emphasises the importance of recognizing the diversity of people who uses drugs but it only refers to the LGBTI+ community once in general and still does not ad
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Gentleman (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay dude I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Self-acceptance parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t act it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a chick before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was conclusion the book She Comes First on his bedside table.
Men I’ve slept with before often have this false bravado around sex, like they need
Why Does Gay Sex Experience Better Than Straight Sex?
R I C H A R D M . Have had a great variety of sexual experiences.
As I’ve written in other answers, I’ve tried sex with another man twice. So this will be from my perspective and possibly comparatively limited experience.
First, I wouldn’t say that it feelsbetter, it certainly feels different, amazing, but not better or worse. But, totally and completely distinct. From a male perspective, you have a straightforward function of anatomy: the prostate:
When something is introduced into the rectum and repeatedly rubs against the prostate itfeels good. Likereally good. No getting around it, having your prostate stimulated while having all the numerous nerve endings in the anal region stimulated is an wonderful experience.
I don’t know about other guys, but I’m one of those that can orgasm hands-free. So the feeling of getting the cum fucked out of me is ultra-intense. Mind-blowingly great sensation.
Then you have the fact that a man knows how to pleasure a human in a way the many women don’t. They know what feels fine and how to perform it. Plus, in my experience, sex with a guy is a minute more forceful, they watch over to, well, fuck harder
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will consider bottoming at some time. However, the thought of doing it for the first occasion can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse play like fisting or with big dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can get douche bulbs online or from any nice sex shop. Endeavor not to move overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can construct you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay appreciate rimming or fingering. Some men perform use amyl nitrate (poppers) to unwind the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased risk of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs fancy Viagra and may cause a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to loosen and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whethe
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a guarded and respectful way
To begin, I’d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to grasp that you can aim new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the antonym of trans. We argue trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and suggestion about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are feeling